This space on the website is for teens of all ages…………….an area where you can come to communicate, comment of issues relevant to you, participate in activities, read some cool info, recommend some great music, unwind, relax and have some fun.   Each month we will be having an open chat  If you have a topic you want to talk about email me... bernadette@appassionata.com.au I would like to thank the girls from some of my programs for allowing me to put their comments and pics up on this site, you are all beautiful, and also for their feedback into what they thought they would like this 'space' to look like…….. I hope that you find this an area when you can come to if you are feeling lonely, isolated, frustrated or angry we can support you to make better choices for yourself and feel beautiful from the inside out!! You will need to be respectful when you write your entries up and email me before you gain access to the teenage territory forum. Contact bernadette@appassionata.com.au How to be a Warrior Princess!! Value yourself Listen to your intuition: that is that feeling or 'voice' deep inside you that tells you what is right or wrong for you. Don't be influenced by other people's needs: if they really loved you would they want to hurt you emotionally, physically, financially or spiritually? Make yourself FEEL GOOD by being kind to you, give yourself a facial, write a poem, light a candle, play dress ups, make an affirmation card. Don't listen to your negative talk in your head…..tell yourself GOOD things about yourself, others and your world and good will come back to you!! Speak about others with respect and in turn you will find respect for yourself Consider your choices, remember every action has a re- action…what re- action do you want?? Sometimes you have to make hard choices……if you are in an unhealthy relationship either with a boyfriend or a friend VALUE YOU AND MOVE AWAY FROM IT Look in the mirror and find something you like about yourself every day Pay compliments to others Treat others how you want to be treated Take time to relax…. With beautiful soft music, candles, aromatherapy, write in a journal, close your eyes and dream…..and watch your worries, anger and frustration melt away!! Be brave…….brave enough to know what is not right for you and make better choices no matter what anyone else thinks LISTEN there is a reason we have 2 ears and 1 mouth…..so we can hear twice as much as we speak If you are angry and frustrated………be constructive not destructive, walk away, take deep breaths and come back to it later Remember you will not always be this age, it is only a leaf in the chapter of a book!! You will be old enough soon enough to make all your own decisions…..Will you be ready for the responsibility?? Warrior Princess's take full responsibility for their own actions and choices, they never blame another for the way they feel!! If you are worried, in something you can't see or get out of, tell someone you trust If you need help, warrior princess's ask for it!! Kicking ass is not the way of the warrior princess………having your dignity and respect is!!   THINGS THAT CAN HELP MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD: Music can move your soul. Have you noticed what type of music you listen to when you are sad? Or angry? What type of music do you listen to that makes YOU FEEL GOOD? Post up on our bulletin board some of your FAV. Music and artists and why you like them? Tips for You: If you are feeling SAD : don't listen to really slow sad songs, if you have broken up with your boyfriend , don't listen to a song that you used to listen to together…………. DO listen to music that makes you feel happy, maybe a song that you and your friends listen to when you feel like being a bit crazy!! TRY IT, it won't take all the pain away but it will help you big time…… Candles + Aromatherapy: If you are feeling down, Lighting candles or incense and aromatherapy is great for you….just make sure you keep an eye on your candles!! Staring into a candle and taking your mind off your worries is a great way to relax, rest your mind and it helps with your feelings….. You will feel calmer and less stressed especially if you listen to soft music, like the waves, or forest sounds actually anything that is about nature will slow your anxiety levels. Expect Respect : no relationship can survive without it A healthy relationship is based on respect, if someone really likes or loves you they will WANT to treat you with respect. Do you have respect in your relationships?? With your girlfriends/boyfriends/peers Here is a checklist so you can see for yourself and make up your own mind tick off if these happen to you.....   You feel safe, NEVER scared You can have and see any other friends or family when you want You feel good about YOU You can so NO to things and they don't mind You can end the relationship when YOU want to You are FREE to express your opinions and beliefs You can change your mind and that is OK You feel you can be yourself, not what others want you to be Think about your relationships and even your friendships, do you feel ok with the answers you gave?? If not maybe you don't have the respect in the relationship you deserve?? YOU NEED TO RESPECT YOU TOO…………………..if you don't respect your own decisions and choices you are making, maybe you have not felt that great about some of the stuff you've done,? Perhaps you can learn to respect yourself more, by making better choices…. Remember it is OK to take your time and consider what you want from a relationship? It is ok to ask yourself WHAT YOU DON'T WANT too!! What do you like in that person? do they genuinely make you feel good? do they have your interest at heart? or do they think of themselves first, before anyone else?? Read some testimonials CLICK HERE TO JOIN   SELF ESTEEM Did you know that in western culture studies show that women obtain their self esteem from being desired, from their body shape, from being thought of as objects of beauty? Men however gain their self esteem from achievement, power and success??? We sure have some work to do to change that!! It helps explain why we seem to be obsessed with our image doesn't it?? Why magazines keep selling us pictures of women who aren't even real……. DID YOU KNOW that nearly every advertisement you see in magazines have been air brushed or digitally changed on a computer??? So all those women DO NOT have skin like that, nor is their hair like that, sometimes they even change eye colour and hair colour!!! NONE OF IT IS REAL….. DID YOU KNOW the reason WHY they do this?? Is because we base our self esteem on image, and this is what sells these magazines and what sells the products………………….all so you can make someone else rich at the expense of how you see yourself!!!..........MAD isn't it………………. So I am calling on all you REAL CHICKS out there to love who you are STOP buying and reading those magazines they are not good for you!! Write in on our bulletin board and tell me what you think of this?? What do reckon is REAL?? Take notice of these magazines and see if you can find and advert in there that hasn't been changed?? 'A study by a psychologist has found that 3 MINUTES spent looking at models in these types of magazines made 70% of women feel more depressed, guilty and ashamed of how they looked'. Models over 20 years ago weighed 8% less than an average person ,TODAY they weigh less than 23%!! America has 150 000 women die of anorexia every year………….how scary is that!! How do you know if you have High Self Esteem:?this is how you 'see' yourself, how you 'feel' about yourself and how you respect yourself….above all HOW YOU VALUE YOU Symptoms of high self esteem: Non aggressive Listen to others and accept what they have to say Make good choices based on what YOU know is RIGHT for YOU 'SEE' the real you in the mirror Confident with yourself and your decisions Have good friends Respectful relationships Free to express your point of view to others Strong enough to say NO when you want to Don't abuse alcohol or drugs Sexually responsible Like yourself as a person Self responsible HAPPY       Symptoms of low self esteem: Aggressive behaviour Abuse alcohol/drugs Continue to make choices that don't make you feel good Sexually irresponsible You don't like what you see in the mirror Talk to yourself negatively all the time Have controlling friends/boyfriends Self harm Either you are bullied or you are a bully Eating disorder Obsessed with HOW YOU LOOK Depressed and unhappy Suicide thoughts     If you feel or think any of the above and you need help, talk to someone you can trust. Maybe you know someone who is feeling like this?? You can change how you feel about yourself, and your self esteem It will take some practice and support, and if you start with talking to someone, and maybe practice some of the points I have put up here like music, candles etc. you will start to feel better Here are what some of the girls that have done my Looking Good Feeling Great programs see what they have to say

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